Journal 10/20/08

Problem Solving:

All of my friends and relationships know me as the listener of the group. I am a good listener and I try to give advise back and help people with their problems. Most of the time I won't tell the person what to do but instead I will help them look at all aspects of the problem and all sides of the solution or help them find other solutions. To have someone to tell your problem to sometimes helps solve it just by talking about it. To get it out in the open helps your mind look at the problem a different way than before. The person you share your problem with has probably gone through what you are going through or knows someone who has had the same problem. Their input can really help if you consider all parts of the suggestions. For the last three weeks I have been having some problems with my boyfriend and I have been talking about it with everyone and everyone has been giving their opinions and suggestions about what to do. This was alright for a while but now it is just annoying and I think that I need to just consider what everyone has said and now make up my own mind instead of doing what everyone is telling me to do. In the end off finding a solution for your problem, you just need to do what is best for you, not what everyone wants you to do. It is nice to have different minds thinking for you but it's your decision in the end and that is why when I try to help people with their problems I only help them make up their minds instead of making up their minds for them.